Dr. Barry Buffman, a Board Certified urologist and the director of the Los Angeles Boston Medical Group, has given ten top sex myths that are most common among women.
Myth 1: A woman will not get pregnant if a guy 'pulls out' before ejaculation
Men do not always know when ejaculatory fluid begins to seep out - and even ahead of a perceptible orgasm, pre-ejaculate (which includes sperm) is released and is enough to get a woman pregnant.
Myth 2: Thinking about someone else during the act is a bad thing to do
A large part of the sexual experience starts with your brain, not your body, and sometimes your brain can wander. If you are committed to your man, and your relationship is in a good place, it's ok to think about George Clooney or Hrithik Roshan every now and then.
Myth 3: Premature ejaculation only affects young men
Some men do find that premature ejaculation begins at the onset of sexual maturity, but plenty of men also find it to be an issue later in life. In fact, premature ejaculation affects 30 percent of men at sometime in their lives. Often, early ejaculation in men who are in their 30s or older is a co-symptom of erectile dysfunction or fatigue, poor cardiovascular conditioning, depression, anxiety, or neurological symptoms.
Myth 4: Oral sex is safer than vaginal sex
From teenagers to former President Bill Clinton, oral sex seems to have the stigma of a "free pass" as far as sexual relationships go. Yes, it does count as sex, and yes, you can get a sexually transmitted disease from oral sex. There is still an exchange of fluids, meaning that diseases can enter your body through sores or small cuts in your mouth and throat.
Myth 5: Certain foods can be aphrodisiacs that will put one in the mood for some good loving
While oysters, dark chocolate, strawberries, and tiger penis might make one feel l'amour, there is no scientific evidence to support the validity of aphrodisiacs.
Myth 6: Size matters
As anyone with sexual experience knows, true sexual enthusiasm far outweighs any gifted parts. And contrary to another popular sex myth, the size of ones member has nothing to do with the size of ones hands or feet.
Myth 7: If all else fails, Viagra and other similar oral medications can treat erectile dysfunction
Oral medications are only a temporary fix to a problem that may have other underlying health causes that should be addressed by a qualified physician. In addition, many men with health conditions, including hypertension and diabetes, cannot take oral prescriptions due to serious potential side effects or contraindications with other medications. For men who cannot use oral meds, there are a number of other options including urethral suppositories and ICP, an injection that produces an erection within minutes.
Myth 8: After a certain age, sex is no longer important
Sex is an important aspect of physical and emotional health and well being for adults of all ages, even those in their golden years. While some people believe that a decrease in libido is a natural part of aging, a loss of sexual desire can be related to a number of other factors including hormone deficiencies, depression, anxiety disorders, side effects of medication, changes to a relationship, communication barriers, or loss of a spouse or partner.
Myth 9: Men have more sexual urges than women do
Though many men would have you believe they're ready to go 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, the truth is that men experience daily fluctuations in libido, as do women. A man's readiness to hop in the sack can be impacted by many of the same factors that impact a woman's level of desire, including diet, sleep, health, stress, medical conditions, self-confidence, and relationship disharmony.
Myth 10: Great sex will just happen naturally without any effort, the way it does in the movies
The human body doesn't come with an instruction manual. The "tricks of the trade" that pleased a former partner do not always translate with someone new. Good communication is the key to good sex, as is a willingness to be open to trying new techniques and positions to find out what each partner finds pleasurable. It can be a little awkward at first to over-communicate during sex, but think about the outcome: a partner who knows how to do it right every time.